First off, I do have some extra weight. I have a belly (it followed me home one day and I can't get it to go back where it came from) also, I am not large downstairs. It's okay, but nothing that is going to get me in the movies. I'm more of a giver than a receiver. The world is full of porn and sex and the like, which is okay by me, but it seems that 99.8% of it is geared towards the "man" and the guy getting most of the pleasure. In my world, it's the opposite. I am about giving pleasure and not really interested in receiving it so much. I get so much more enjoyment out of pleasing someone else. It's an 'emotional orgasm' for me, so to speak. To hear someone breathing hard or to know that their heart is pounding and they are feeling wonderful, well, that is what I want to bring to the table. The person or persons that I'm with, guy or girl, couple or whatever, I want them to feel happy and know that I have given it my all and that I want nothing in return. Anyway (sigh) it's your call and your decision.